This came across on Facebook today from my cousin and it speaks to why I chose to write a book whose subject looked at labels, the labels that can, if we allow, stop us from reaching our potential. Divorcee was probably the toughest label I had to deal with, but I did. I will be a Baptist, a Southern Baptist, but that was my identity more than I was my own identity for years until I started exploring the scripture in a totally different way. I was more of a “Southern Baptist Covenant” person, and there is a difference. I am a Christian, that is my directing force. Then as I moved through the step-parent label I really came to understand why we can freeze in time, stuck in a label. Then cancer came, I learned then that I had to determine my path – either a victim or a survivor. I was afraid when faced with danger, so I was a victim then until I allowed God to carry me through that experience. I am a daughter, an obedient daughter, and that proved to be a tougher role as I matured, because many times I had to be okay with my parents, even as they completed their journeys on this earth and I became the care giver and the roles were somewhat switched. I am a wife, and that can be confusing if living by the “submissive” rule, because I am independent and, at times, stubborn. But I have learned to compromise and remain “cool, calm and corrected” as Robert H Schuller suggests in his book, The Be (Happy) Attitudes. These and more lessons learned are in Asking ‘What’, No More ‘Whys’. I lived by the “can nots” for so very long, victory came through the lessons of life and allowing God to place me on Eagle’s Wings and Soar.